Good Evening!
Seeing as this is a Life, Beauty & Mummy blog, i thought i would write a mummy blog post today.
Being a Mum IS a job. It is one of the hardest things to do ever, i've not had a "normal job" , all ive ever done in my life is school. I only ever had to look after myself and not really have to worry about anything else. When your in school the only thing you think of ever doing in your future is your dream job, or growing up and having a family of your own - thinking that you can pick and choose when you want to settle down and have kids. In some cases that is true, but then what happens if things dont go to plan??
I think this is exactly why i like to have things planned when it comes to birthdays and events etc. I like knowing in advance every tiny little detail, because having Liam was not planned it came as a massive shock and i definately was not at a point in my life where i was ready to settle down and have a child. Abortion is a very touchy subject nowadays - everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but abortion wasnt a choice for me, i dont think i could have ever lived with myself.
Anyway, when your at a young age no one ever tells you how difficult being a mum can be. Its not all lovely new baby smells, and loads of cuddles. Babies dont sleep alot and they are definately not happy all of the time! The first few days after i had liam was a massive learning curve for me - i had to do everything not just for myself but this tiny new life i had brought into the world. It was one of the most weirdest feelings ever! You are completely responsible for this tiny human being who cant do anything but cry, sleep, eat, puke and poop! because that is exactly what he did for the first few weeks.
Then theres the making of the bottles; making sure they are sterilised and clean, that there is the right amount of powder to the water, and that it isnt too hot. Making sure that they are warm/cool enough - and the complete worry of every mum that you are doing everything wrong!
For every new mum out there, your not doing wrong, your not hurting your baby by putting their babygros on and taking them off. YOU ARE DOING AN AMAZING JOB!
I was quite lucky in the sense that i had so much support from friends/family and i was still living at home, but what i do know is there are plenty of young/old mums out there who dont have support from their family or friends, and if you are one of those people then find someone to talk to whether it be your health visitor or maybe there is a local mother & baby group you could go to so you can make new friends in the same situation as you. There will always be someone around to listen to your worries, and help in your new journey to being the most brilliant mum ever!
Babies dont come with an instruction manual, they dont have a mute button or different settings. No one ever tells you about the pains after the birth of your child, the sleepless nights, the teething, the worries, the baby jabs, potty training, first days of school/nursery/playgroup. All kids will learn at their own pace..
I am in no way a parenting expert by the way! Ive had one child not a million! I'm just writing this blog in hope that i will help some mums out there who are worried about becoming a parent and to let everyone know you are not alone, there will be other people in the same situation as you. Becoming a mum was the best thing i have ever done in my life, i may have put on a bit of weight, got a few stretch marks along the way but i will always know whatever i do is for my child, and i am no longer that selfish teenager but a MUM a very proud one at that..& talking to other mums helps alot with confidence and reassuring me that everything is normal, im not doing anything wrong and that i am not ALONE!
Look out for PART TWO coming soon....
Until next time...
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